Home For The Holidays
As the marketing team at a Continuing Care Retirement Community, we had the distinct pleasure of meeting a wide variety of fascinating, wonderful people. Very few of them walked into our offices because they had nothing better to do, though. Typically there was some kind of significant change or precipitating event that scared them, or their family, enough to get them through the door. We met with husbands whose wives were showing signs of dementia, widows who were tired of dealing with the stress of home maintenance, adult children who were concerned for their parents’ safety, vibrant people, lonely people, and everything in-between. What always surprised us was just how many people we met – of all ages – who were oblivious or in complete denial about what was going on at that moment, as well as what was inevitably going to happen in the future. You know what we are talking about…
We don’t live near our parents and we don’t get to see them as often as we would like to, so we make every attempt to spend the holidays together. This year will be no exception. Thankfully, all four of them are in great health and are more than capable of handling their affairs, but we know that some day that will probably change. If, like us, you live far from your parents but will be with them during the holiday season, you may want to take advantage of this great opportunity to gauge how they are doing and find out if they have plans in place for when their care needs change.
Although you may not relish the idea of discussing whether or not your parents have a “Do Not Resuscitate” order as you pass the turkey around the table, there are many subtle (or not) ways to get an idea of what your parents’ needs and desires are. We are currently developing an array of tools and resources designed to help individuals and families with all aspects of senior care. To get things started, click on the link below for a list of helpful questions and things to think about when you are with your family, and have a great holiday!